As a lowly homebody for this summer, I have been at peace in my own home most of the time and have done whatever it took to keep myself occupied and away from the stress-inducing task of overthinking. I have read all the books there is to read and watched all the anime that is worth watching. It saddens me that the collection of books and anime that I have gathered and saved while I studied my last year in high school weren’t enough to last me the whole summer.
Since college starts late in July, I have another whole month and a few days to spend with myself, to reflect my emotions, plan for the upcoming battle ahead (which is freshman year in college) and prepare myself for the bigger challenges that awaits me. But for now, I have succumbed to the idea of spending my last days of summer with the Internet.
As I scrolled my newsfeed on Facebook, one of the most highly addictive networking sites, besides Twitter (Well, at least to me, they are.), I saw this picture and it helped me ponder in life randomly. (Yes, I’m weird and I think about random shiznit. Hence, the name of this blog.)
Translation: What will you do if it were your monthsary/anniversary and your partner was with his/her buddies the whole day?
Harsh, right? I for one hasn’t been swept off my feet by anybody yet. Thus, I don’t have my own experience. All experiences that I have in store with me is from my friends who had more of their share of the downs in their relationships. I, as the kind person that I am willingly helped, of course. (I was just kidding. I’m actually evil. But, I do give out advice from time to time.)
Even though I am not the most experienced person in the world in these kinds of things, I know what I want in a guy and our soon-to-be-blossoming-into-something-more relationship. (Whoa. This is escalated far too quickly, even for me.) If this ever happened to me, of course I would be disappointed in him. I mean, if ever I had a boyfriend, I would never suffocate him as much as I don’t want to be suffocated but I would keep him in the closest distance possible where we’ll have enough space for each of us to mature on our own and enough space to let each other grow together as one intimately. So in this case, what would I have done to him just so that I’d be forgotten on this one special day that we both share? Nothing, except to be a good girlfriend. And, this is what I would get. Gee, thanks, imaginary boyfriend.
If this happened to me, I can consider for myself that I have the right to give him the silent treatment, or worse,I could break it off. But, no. I will not even sulk in the corner because he forgot about me on our special day. Instead, at the end of the day when he comes back home to me, I would put the sweetest smile on my face and do whatever it takes to make him happy. I would cook him his favorite dinner, watch his favorite movie and cuddle with him until we fall asleep and wake up next to each other, appreciating what’s in front of me.
But who am I kidding? If he “forgot” our monthsary/anniversary and spend it the whole day with his friends, I would cut his throat open and I’ll make sure his “buddies” tag along, too… Nah, I’m just kidding again. What I do mean to say is that if the guy (or the lady) is the right one, he’ll love you SOOOOOOOOOOOO much that he must have been excitedly waiting for your anniversary/monthsary to arrive like it was always the first one. I know it’s a tad bit too romantic and believe me, I don’t believe in fairy tales and happily-ever-afters but a pessimist can still hope, right?
From all this, I can conclude that being single is fun and carefree, even if it’s too lonely sometimes and that love is complicated and it might give you headaches. If I were you, I’d stay single as long as time has permitted love to come along and ruin your life I mean, prove to you that the world is not such a bad place to live in after all and when love comes, you must embrace the whole package wholeheartedly, the hurt together with the happiness.
How about you? What would you do if this happens to you? 🙂